How to Start With Chastity – Beginner’s Guide
In this article, we would like to introduce you to Chastity. If you are curious about it, and would like to give it a try, the best way to start is to gain some knowledge 😉
Here is a step-by-step introduction to Chastity, but before diving into it, remember the most important rule — any activity should always be practiced safely, sanely, and consensually.
1. Understanding What Chastity Is
Chastity refers to the practice of restricting access to one’s own genitals, typically through the use of a physical device (a chastity cage, belt, or similar). It is used in various contexts, including personal self-control, power exchange relationships, or kink/BDSM dynamics.
Key Concepts:
- Chastity Device: A lockable device designed to prevent sexual activity (most commonly masturbation or intercourse).
- Keyholder: The person who holds the key and controls when the wearer is allowed to remove the device.
- Wearer: The person who wears the device and submits to its use.
2. Determine Your Purpose
Clarify the reason for exploring chastity. It could be for:
- Personal discipline or habit-breaking
- Relationship enrichment or intimacy
- Exploring power dynamics
- Erotic play or fetish/kink interest
Your intent will shape how you approach the practice.
3. Choose the Right Device
Start with a comfortable, beginner-friendly device. Consider the following:
- Material: Silicone (softer, flexible) or polycarbonate/plastic (lightweight). Metal is durable but better for experienced users.
- Size: Get accurate measurements of the penis while flaccid (length and girth). Most beginner kits include sizing rings.
- Type: Open (ventilated, easier for hygiene) vs. closed (more restrictive, less breathable).
Tips:
- Avoid very small cages at first.
- Look for models with easy locking mechanisms.
- Hygienic design is important for long-term wear.
4. Test Fit and Comfort
Before engaging in long-term wear:
- Try wearing the device for short periods (1–2 hours).
- Monitor for circulation, pinching, or swelling.
- Gradually increase duration over several days.
Never push past discomfort or numbness — this can cause injury.
5. Establish Consent and Rules (If Involving a Partner)
If chastity involves a partner:
- Discuss boundaries, goals, and roles (who will be the keyholder).
- Decide on check-ins, safe words, and emergency removal procedures.
- Agree on any rewards, punishments, or milestones.
Clear, open communication is essential for trust and safety.
6. Hygiene and Safety Practices
Maintaining cleanliness is critical:
- Wash the device and genitals daily.
- Use a handheld shower head or cotton swabs to clean underneath.
- Remove the device regularly to inspect for skin irritation or sores.
For long-term wear, plan scheduled “release days” for deep cleaning and health checks.
7. Lock-Up Duration and Training
Start small:
- Try 1 day, then 3 days, then a week.
- Track mental and physical responses.
- Increase only if the wearer is comfortable and willing.
Chastity is often a mental training process as much as a physical one. Patience and gradual progression help with long-term success.
8. Address Mental and Emotional Aspects
Wearing chastity can bring up complex feelings — frustration, arousal, vulnerability, or empowerment.
- Journaling, discussions with a partner, or reflection can help.
- Remember: chastity is meant to enhance, not harm, your experience or relationship.
9. Know When to Stop
If you experience:
- Persistent pain, swelling, or numbness
- Emotional distress or resentment
- Relationship strain or loss of consent
— then pause the practice. Chastity should always be safe and consensual.
10. Continue Learning and Exploring
Resources:
- Online communities and forums (e.g., Reddit, FetLife)
- Reputable BDSM educational sites
- Books and guides focused on safe kink practices
Stay informed, open-minded, and respectful of boundaries.
